"Always at ease herself, she makes others feel so." What girl wouldn't feel complimented to have such a statement made about her? And isn't this really the essence and aim of all social training? Of course, courtesy and the little niceties of life are all essential, but after all, "the charm of fine manners" spoken of so often is really feeling at ease, realizing so truly one's own capability of handling any situation into which one may be thrust that others are made to feel quite natural and not self-conscious.